131: The Power of Acceptance

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Many people think acceptance is weak or it's something we do when we are defeated. It's actually the opposite. There is great power in acceptance. It's a choice we make from a clear intentional place within. When we do this our drama or anger can be done and gone. In today's show I speak with you about accepting things we are not happy about, things we cannot change and how our lives can transform with acceptance.

Links & Notes:

Transforming Triggers podcast #98

30 day Journaling Challenge

Charlotte, NC Weekend Intensive Jan 26 & 27

Go o to podcast page on my website and click the blue button to leave a 5 star review on iTunes

For the photo credit : Photo by Chris Fuller on Unsplash

Sponsor: This week’s show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach

130: A Deeper Understanding of The Adult Chair

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After four years of this podcast, I felt like it was time for a refresher of the three chairs. In this show, I discuss where the Adult Chair model came from and a review of the three chairs. For long time listeners, this will reinforce your knowledge of the Adult Chair. For new listeners this will help you to build a foundation for this model. Either way, it's filled with great information about the three chairs!

Links & Notes:

The Journaling Challenge: theadultchair.com/journal

The Adult Chair Book: A Guide to Loving Yourself

129: Healing from Abandonment

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Abandonment can leave an incredible wound inside of us. We do our best to bury it and not feel that pain but it leaves its mark on us. We move through life unconsciously guarded and ready for abandonment to happen again. We want to be free of this wound but don't know how. In today's show I go over the two types of abandonment and offer steps to heal this wound.

Links & Notes:

Journaling Challenge

Inner Child Experience Download

Narcissism Podcast Episode

Grief Podcast Episode

Parts Podcast Episode: Who’s Sitting In My Adolescent Chair?

Healing from Betrayal Podcast Episode

Sponsor: This week’s show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: The Journey From Abandonment to Healing by Susan Anderson

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128: Own Your Reality

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There is huge power in owning our reality, yet most of us don't know how. We hide behind masks to cover our true selves up and show up in the world how we think others want us to be. This can be exhausting and so wearing on us. In this show, I speak about the power in owning your reality and the benefits of doing so.

Links & Notes:

Podcast: #103- It’s All About You

Podcast: #30 - The Code author Tony Burroughs on Intention and The Highest Good

Sponsor: This week’s show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Reinventing Yourself: How To Become The Person You Always Wanted To Be by Steve Chandler.

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127: Codependency: Ending the Addiction to "Help" Others

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We feel responsible for fixing and taking care of others. When we aren't "helping", we may feel anxious or useless. These could be symptoms of codependency. In today's show, I review what happens in childhood that sets us up for codependency, what it looks like in adulthood, and how you can heal and transform your life.

Links & Notes:

Journaling Challenge: Go to www.michellechalfant.com to sign up.

Podcast: #11 Codependency: I"m OK if you are OK

Podcast: #70 I am not your lifejacket! Ending Codependency in Relationships

Podcast: #27 Who are You? Self-Validation and Projection

Podcast: #84 Raising Self Esteem

Sponsor: This week’s show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Codependent No More by Melody Beattie.

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126: Integrating The Self

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When we experience a trauma, there is a part of us that can get stuck in time, yet we continue to physically grow. Part of the work of the Adult Chair is finding these parts and integrating them into the self in order to help us to feel whole and healthy. My client Sarah graciously agreed to share her session today which demonstrates the integration of her 10 year old part. It was a beautiful session and I am so grateful to Sarah for sharing her experience.

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124: Conscious Uncoupling: How to End Relationships Well with Katherine Woodward Thomas

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We don't end relationships well. Unfortunately no one teaches us how to do this. We get stuck in our victim or get caught in the blame game which only keeps us stuck!

Katherine Woodward Thomas offers us a fresh perspective on breaking up and ending well. On today's show, we discuss her book and process called Conscious Uncoupling, which Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin made famous. She shares with us the 5 key elements in the book that teach us how to live happily even after.

Sponsor: This week’s show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After by Katherine Woodward Thomas.

Links & Notes:

Katherine Woodward Thomas: www.consciousuncoupling.com

Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After

FREE OFFER: Conscious Uncoupling Starter Kit

ABOUT KATHERINE WOODWARD THOMAS

Katherine Woodward Thomas, M.A., MFT is the author of the New York Times Bestseller Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After which was nominated for a Books for a Better Life Award, and the national bestseller, Calling in “The One:” 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life. She is also a licensed marriage and family therapist and teacher to thousands from all corners of the world in her virtual and in-person learning communities.

Katherine is the originator of the Conscious Uncoupling process made famous by Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin as well as creator of the Calling in “The One:” 49 Days to Love online course.

To date, Katherine has trained and credentialed hundreds of people as Certified Conscious Uncoupling Coaches and as Certified Calling in “The One” Coaches.


113: Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder

This week on the show I have a guest to talk to us about one of the most misunderstood and over-used labels I’ve run across: borderline personality disorder. Dr. Robin Arthur is a fantastic and knowledgeable expert who has been working with BPD individuals for years and has managed to offer us the tools we need not only to understand it, but to differentiate it from other personality disorders that are often confused.