Recently after having some interactions with a family member I felt a lot of anger and frustration bubble up inside of me. As my day went on, I realized an hour had gone by since our interaction and I was still holding the negative emotions from our interaction.
When I tuned into my body, I felt shortness of breath, a knot in my stomach and a heaviness on my chest.
Thinking back to our interaction I realized (1) there was no solution to the problem (I could not fix her or the problem) and (2) I am allowing someone outside of myself to ruin my mood, my health and as time went on, my day.
By holding all of this negative energy, it hurts no one but me!
If I could see inside my body, I would guess my blood pressure had risen dramatically, the aging process had been accelerated due to all the stress chemicals being released and by holding this negative emotion to me to it disconnecting me from my connection to God/the universe. It’s like pinching off a hose with water running through it. I am doing this to myself!
So when in a mood or emotional place like this, with no resolution what can we do?
A technique that I find works remarkably well for instances like this is called The Sedona Method.
With the Sedona Method we ask ourselves a series of questions regarding our mood and/or emotional state. The question and response dialogue used with Sedona creates an outlet for stored negative emotion(s) to exit.
Here are the steps of this process: (I will use my experience as an example)
- Ask yourself: “What is my NOW feeling? (ANGER)
- “Could I welcome or allow it?” (YES)
- “Could I let it go?” (YES)
- “Would I let it go?” (YES)
- “When?” (Now)
While asking these questions to yourself really tune into your body, many times you will actually feel the energy/emotions release out of your body. Really sit with each response to the question. Be honest with yourself.
If you should get a "No" answer to any of these questions, ask yourself this question: "Would you rather feel that feeling or be free?" Allow yourself to really sit with your response. Be easy on yourself with the answer, this is a process.
You can use this with yourself or with another person and ask them the questions. The idea behind this method is to continue to release emotions until you reach either a neutral or a happy place. For me, I released anger, frustration, resentment, fear then annoyance which eventually got me to a neutral place. With each round my negative feeling state lessened.
Our emotions are layered and we must work through the layers to find neutral. The nice thing about Sedona is the speed at which you are able to shift. An experience like this for me took as little as 10 minutes to find neutral or happiness. Once you work this technique a few times you’ll find it to be as fast as it is easy to use.
For more information on the Sedona Method go to: www.sedona.com