EVERY TIME we are triggered and experience a negative emotion/feeling like anger, unworthy, unlovable, shame etc it's OUR STUFF! I think of it like this, we are the projector with the movie and the outside world is simply acting out (and showing us) our unhealed pain, wounds and issues. So the next time you feel triggered by someone, ask this question, "What is this person showing me about myself?" Also ask this, "What emotion am I feeling?" Then own it, don't blame anyone (including yourself), just own that it's yours and sit with what and where it's coming from and what you can learn from it. It's a powerful exercise and is part of working with our "shadow," the parts of us we hide from others but also the parts that when we own, can free us from our pain.