Welcome to your Inner Child
I'm thrilled you're here, that you've chosen to explore your relationship with your inner child, and to discover a whole new experience — one in which you allow yourself to move through the world in a state of loving yourself.
First, please watch the brief video above. In it, I introduce you to the kind of work that I do in relation to my Adult Chair model and the inner child. It's important background to moving into the meditations you'll be exploring next.
With that introduction behind you, open your calendar. Over the next three to four days, block out time to practice each of the following two meditations at least once. In them, I guide you through accessing and connecting to your inner child, and building the kind of relationship with your inner child that will open the doors to clearing codependency, negative programming, and lack of self love.
The Inner Child Meditations
Your Inner Child Connection
Now that you have watched each of the meditations, I'll bet you're wondering, where do I go from here? How do I continue?
Since you have now connected with your inner child the next step is building the connecting. This is where the healing continues. The first step is connecting to your inner child, and the next step is building on that connection.
From here you will want to check in with your inner child at least once a week but if you can do it more, absolutely do it!
This part of you wants — and needs! — a connection. Continuing to build and cement this new and blossoming relationship is key. Here are some ideas on how to do this:
- Connect and get an image of your inner child and ask them how they are feeling. Let them tell you and validate, whatever the feeling is. If they are angry, don’t try to talk them out of being angry, just listen. That part of you wants to be heard, there is nothing to fix.
- I like to connect and check in on my way to work or before going to bed. Find a time that works best for you and create a routine around it.
- Many people set their phone alarms or put a daily, weekly or three-times-a-week check-in on their calendars for reminders.
- I used to visualize myself saying goodbye to little Michelle daily when I’d drop my younger son off to school. Do what feels right for you.
- Journal to your inner child. Check in with writing. You can ask how they are and pause, close your eyes and let them respond with your journal. You can switch hands and use your non-dominant hand as your child and your dominant hand as your adult as your journal hosts a conversation between the two of you.
- Let your imagination go with connecting to your inner child. Get creative with this!
Journaling Prompts for Your Inner Child
As a special bonus, I've put together a set of seven prompts to use while you're building your journaling relationship with your inner child.
Questions that may come up
What do you do if your inner child hates you, is angry, or doesn’t want to see or talk to you? This happens! Be patient!
Think of it like this: imagine if your parent comes home with a new wife or husband and says. “Meet your new step parent, you must love and bond with them!”
Some people may feel a bit put off with this new “adult” showing up. A new loving parent would know this and be patient and keep showing up and listening. Listening is a powerful step with the inner child. No matter what emotions are coming up for them, let them have them. Even if it’s anger — this is key! Let them express it and be there for them. When my inner child is angry I sit and let her vent. I then tell her I love her. My inner child was abandoned for a very long time. She has every right to be angry, sad, or otherwise emotional!
Some people have experiences in which their inner child won’t come out of hiding and they can’t see them after doing the first meditation. Again, be patient. Practice the meditation a few more times. Your inner child wants to see that you are serious about showing up and loving them. Show them they are worth the wait. When the guided meditation is over, imagine yourself going and sitting in your special place and just waiting there for your inner child to come to you.
Listening and patience is the key to bonding with the inner child. Show them you are in your new, healthy adult, one that is patient, kind, loving, and compassionate. Show up for them like the parent you wanted but didn’t get growing up. Be that for them and watch the healing begin.
How will my life change from building a relationship with my inner child?
You will feel different about who you are. Your life will change after connecting with your inner child. But I can’t say how. It will be a unique experience for you, just as it’s unique for everyone. This is a spiritual concept, meaning we are working with the mind and the imagination and working with parts from our past. There is no way of knowing how the present will change, but it will! Think of dominos that we are pushing over that were set up a long time ago. Now, when they fall, after tweaking them from the past, they will fall differently. The good news is that your life will change for the better. You are healing aspects of yourself that have needed healing for a very long time.
This is powerful work.
I am happy that you decided to bond with this beautiful part of you. The inner child is the container and keeper for your emotions, needs, fun, creativity, passion, vulnerability, intimacy, and so much more. These beautiful aspects of you will begin to emerge in your life when doing this work, not all at once but at the perfect, divine time.
It’s a beautiful gift you are giving yourself, by connecting in this way. This powerful process yields great healing inside. Much love to you on your sacred journey with your child.