Do you need more money? Do you need a better job? How about a relationship? We all have needs, wants and desires and we think about them, even spend time visualizing them but they don’t show up! Why??

A client recently contacted me and asked me why the Law of Attraction isn’t working for her. I had to laugh and say that’s it’s never NOT working. It’s a law, just like gravity, it’s always switched “ON” and can’t be off. It just is.

She said that she has had money issues for too long now and is doing everything according to the Law of Attraction and what we had discussed. She is visualizing checks coming in, visualizing higher bank statement balances when she looks at her statements that come in the mail, she is having gratitude for what she has, we have re-worked some of her limiting beliefs in sessions and done a few other things. So where’s the money!?

When I tuned into her energy I felt stagnation. I asked her what she was doing to bring in the money and she said nothing, just visualizing and doing all of the things to line her thoughts and beliefs up with money. BIG PROBLEM…

This is a mistake many of us make when it comes to understanding the law of attraction.  It is true Continue Reading

Stop talking about your past! At least the part of it that doesn’t serve you. When we talk about something from our past that doesn’t serve us, it keeps us stuck in the past!

I caught myself today telling a friend part of my (past) story on how my uncle treated me and my family and how he ruined part of my childhood, blah, blah, blah…. I have told that story 100’s of times. I stopped myself mid-sentence and said, “I am not going to continue that story anymore.” “It keeps me stuck in my past and I can’t move on from it!” “I am done, please don’t ever let me speak of that again, it doesn’t serve me.”

Wow, did that feel empowering!

One of my clients needs validation from her friends, family and co-workers because she never got it as a child from her parents. Her mother ignored her and her father stood by and watched. It’s a great “story” that creates drama but also keeps her stuck in the past re-living an unnecessary part of her past as a victim. She never felt accepted so longs now for that acceptance from others and loses herself and her self worth to try and get that acceptance from others. It’s a story that comes up on a regular basis and she sees the patterning throughout Continue Reading

“What the heck is going on that I am so sick and/or tired lately?” This seems to be the question of the week lately. There are a few reasons for this. This explanation may seem far-fetched to some but if you reach in your heart and feel for truth you may find that it resonates more than you think it does.

Our world is changing. Look around and compare our world to how it was just 10 or 20 years ago…We live in a world that’s just plain fast. We have everything from fast food and microwaves to fast information propelled via the internet and/or cell phones.

The speed of how we live doesn’t stop just with what we can see and touch. We must consider what’s going on energetically with our great earth. The frequency or energetic vibration of our planet is literally rising and speeding up. Simply stated, there is more light on our planet than any other time in our history. This is one of the most exciting times to live on our planet as well as one of the most difficult.

Here’s why:

With more light coming onto our planet it is causing an expansion of our earth. Have you ever noticed a door or window that gets hit by the sun for months on end then it won’t open easily or gets Continue Reading

Fill in the blank…What do you THINK will make you happy? So many of us get on that hamster wheel of happiness only to hit dead end after dead end.

It seems happiness can come briefly then we go on a hunt for it again. How do we make it stick?

I myself look back and thought (like most girls) that getting married will make me happy, then the build-up of the wedding happens and it’s bliss, bliss, bliss. After the wedding, “normalcy” sets in then I said, “Time for a baby!” Then a new bigger car to accommodate all of these babies and stuff.

Every “new” thing that happens in our lives brings a burst of (temporary) happiness and joy then normalcy sets in.

Our ego/mind is on a quest,  promising to find happiness for us and continues to find new things to create what it thinks is the end of the road, true happiness, then that too fades. Then the search goes on again.

In the last 15 years, we have lived in 5 houses, ranging from inexpensive to very expensive and we have rented and owned. I was no more or less happy because of any of those houses. We have had money in the last 15 years and almost lost all of it a couple years ago, same feelings-no more or less happy with our without Continue Reading

Who hasn’t ended a day with this statement? We have all had terrible days. How the heck does this happen? How can we prevent this from happening? My 11 year old son had a “terrible day” experience and changed his next day to a fantastic day. If HE can do it, ANYONE CAN!

My son started school yesterday. He was nervous and mad he did not get placed in his friend’s class. He is in a new school this year and doesn’t know anyone but one child. I had requested that my son be placed in his friend’s class it didn’t happen.

My son got on the bus with nervousness and excitement.

The day went by and my husband and I greeted him as he got off the bus. He broke into tears and said, “I had a terrible day!” I didn’t make friends, no one talked to me, I don’t have ‘David’ in my class, the whole day was awful!

We gave him hugs and lots of love, as I know my son and he would be fine eventually, it was his mindset that was broken or “off.”

The next morning I drove him to school. We were almost to school and I asked him, “What kind of day are you going to have today?” He said, “I don’t know, the day hasn’t started.” I explained to him that with his mind, he will create Continue Reading

Many of you have asked me if the stories in the previous post “I Challenge You,” were real or made up. They are ALL REAL!

I realize that it’s hard to believe that by spending 2 minutes (or less) a day feeling gratitude/appreciation about someone or something we can change relationships with whomever or whatever we are focusing on. BUT, in 2 words…THIS WORKS! I have had countless examples come in since I wrote this blog post.

BUT HOW?

When we focus on something and hold appreciation/gratitude for it we are actually filling our bodies with more light. When we fill up with more light energy we then attract more light to us.  Simply stated, light energy is love energy. Because the law of attraction is always in force, just as the law of gravity is always in force, when we fill ourselves with love we can then only attract more love into our lives! Remember, like attracts like. It’s a real simple formula and works very quickly.

THE DILEMMA

It’s difficult to spend time focusing on the good in someone we don’t have a great relationship with, let alone that we are upset with. Our ego/mind makes us question ourselves with ideas like, “Why would you feel love let alone gratitude for Continue Reading

I challenge you to join us for a 30 day life changing activity that will take as little as 2 minutes per day. If you can follow these steps for 30 days I will GUARANTEE that your life will be different at the end of 30 days.

HERE’S THE PLAN

Pick one person that you would like to have an improved relationship with.

Find one memory, JUST ONE from the past where you felt appreciation/gratitude/enjoyment/love for them. If you honestly do not have a memory, imagine a positive experience you would like to have with them.

For at least 2 minutes per day, every day for 30 days, close your eyes and imagine the experience when you felt love/enjoyment/appreciation for that person. Imagine that the experience from the past is happening RIGHT NOW. Put yourself there; be there, fully in your emotions.  Tune into your body and notice how good it feels, you may feel lighter, your heart area opening, you may even feel tears. Whatever you feel is perfect. Just sit in it for a minimum of 2 minutes EVERY DAY.

WHAT’S GONNA HAPPEN

Your relationship with that person will change in some way for the better. Don’t expect to know what or how it will change Continue Reading

Just wanted to publish a quick post about some upcoming changes. This domain name/title of my blog is going to be changing from Solutions Beyond the Mainstream to 1000Bridges.com. We are in the process of making this change this week and into next week. I am going to be phasing out my website and merging all of my information into this new blog. The content of the posts that you receive will be the same. The exciting news is that the blog will soon have video’s, e-book links and a tab for web based classes. The changes began last month with the development with the new landing page for www.1000bridges.com.

I am also in the process of developing a facebook fan page in order to create a more interactive experience.

Yes, LOTS of exciting things happening!

I hope to have all of this completed by mid-May at the latest. Please excuse in advance any random “test-posts” that you may receive. We are hoping that this won’t happen but in case it does I wanted you to be aware of where they were coming from.

I plan to continue to post throughout this process just wanted you to be aware of what is happening on my end and didn’t want you to Continue Reading

My goal is to spend as much time living in balance as possible. Being that we are human and have ego’s that feed us fear based thoughts we all get thrown off from time to time.

What I have learned that helps is to have a “Default Thought” when we feel ourselves begin to slide emotionally. A default thought is a thought we can  immediately go to when something causes us to slide out of balance emotionally.

It can be a place in the past, present, future or even a made up place. We imagine that place when anything throws us emotionally. It will help us to disassociate from the situation causing us stress and bring us back to balance.

Buddism teaches us that when something happens in our experience, we need not let it “hook us,” to pull us in, to get lost in it feeling like we can’t get out.  When it “hooks us,” we begin to slide down the emotional scale, drowning with the emotion. We then reach for something to pull us out like food, alcohol, tv to numb our pain. We can accomplish the same relief in a positive way when we pull in our default thought.

Research has shown that a human emotion lasts only 1.5 minutes and it’s released. If we are feeling anything after 1.5 minutes, we are Continue Reading

When we speak in absolutes like these we limit ourselves, which creates anxiety because we feel stuck, like there is no way out. We all use them. Here are a few examples:

• I will NEVER lose this weight!
• I ALWAYS lose at this game.
• ABSOLUTELY not!
• I would NEVER take a chance on that, it’s too risky.
• If you EVER talk to me like that again…

There are many others that we use but you get the idea.

These words limit us, limit our potential. We must make every attempt to become aware of when we are speaking with absolutes. They are powerful words and very limiting to the creation of our future realities.

Re-read the statements from above or look at some of your own and question them.  This is how we must speak to ourselves (and others) when these words slip out.

For example:

• I will NEVER lose this weight!  Never??
• My husband is ALWAYS late, it make me so mad!   ALWAYS??

When we question the absolute, we find that it’s not true! This powerful act of simply questioning the statements that we make to ourselves and others can relieve created anxiety. Anxiety is born from the future feeling hopeless and having no Continue Reading